My boyfriend and I have been going out for about three months now.We’ve already had sex and I think we took it way too fast.My boyfriend of 8 months is still friends with his ex, whom he was with for five years. I understand that he has love and respect for her as a person and that I should be respectful of his past and their relationship. In the beginning of our relationship he spoke with her almost every day by phone (she lives three hours away). Making Sure Your Head Is in the Right Place Getting a Second Chance Addressing the Issues That Caused the Breakup When Should You Try This?
If they have your attention, at some level they are comforted by the fact that you still think of them.It makes me feel unloved but I don’t know how to let him know that without him getting mad.He’s like “Oh yeah, I’ll text you tomorrow.” Then he doesn’t!Whenever your ex keeps the lines of communication open with you after breaking up, it's always a good sign.Most exboyfriends who are already thinking of moving on will want to break ties with you as soon as possible, and those no longer interested in you will have even less of a desire to stay in touch.But the reason I say it is that it’s something I would have said years ago in an early relationship. The thing is, as I had more relationships –more falling in love and then eventually the break-up, more ups, more downs, more experience — my perspective changed and the way I was in relationships changed too… Sure, people get jaded by breakups, sometimes for a month, sometimes for several months (or longer), but the ups and the downs of relationships are both really good things.